Say Yes to the Mystery of the Unknown

true intimacy and connection

So often, we automatically say no to new experiences. We don’t already know what those experiences will be like, so we fear them. But how boring would it be if we already knew what every experience would be like? There would be no magic or wonder in the world.

Knowing is limiting. It’s the unknown where the mystery of life resides and where all possibility is born.

So don’t push away the unknowns. Step into the joy, richness, and yumminess of life. As the ancient Sufi poet Rumi wrote, “Respond to every call that excites your spirit.”

Believe that you can bring opportunities into your life that will bring you joy, peace, adventure, and excitement.

A pivotal moment for me came when two of my coworkers at Hay House asked me to write a poem for their wedding and read it at the ceremony. Reid Tracy, president and CEO of Hay House heard the poem and he said, “Oh, you’re a real poet!” Now, I had a master’s degree in poetry writing, but it took Reid saying that to me before I truly believed it. I thought Reid hated poetry, but he asked me to start reading my poems before the keynote speakers at our conferences that I was emceeing. It was the first of many yeses that I would say, even though I was scared out of my mind.

After I had read my poems on stage for a while, Reid said, “Why don’t you share some of your personal story, too?” That led to my becoming a speaker on the Hay House circuit.

I could never have imagined what would happen on the other side of my greatest fear. And it all came about from making the jump and saying yes, again and again. I said yes to getting on stage, standing in my truth, telling my story. It was a jump without a mask or a cape.

It was astonishing to me to realize how much resonance there was. I thought my poems and my story was so personal and private. Yet what I’ve learned is that the more specific, the more universal.

We all think we need to hide some part of us in order to be loved and accepted. And we’re also running around wanting to be loved for who we are. True intimacy and connection can only be found when my vulnerability meets yours in the sweet spot.

What parts of you are you ready to say “yes” to, today?

2 replies
  1. Sandy
    Sandy says:

    I should dare to shine more and share my story. When people do hear my story, they love it! I tend to only share it if I’m asked and in intimate surroundings. I have all of this art work that I create and don’t dare to share too along with hundreds of pieces of jewelry I create. People say that they it love but I’m afraid to post them on my Etsy shop? I’ve been kind of pretending to have an Etsy shop now for over six months, listed a few things for sell, but really haven’t worked it yet. Why? Fear of rejection and failure? Probably, but I’ve always been a bit strange and peculiar in nature, so you would think that wouldn’t be an issue by now…… I feel more that maybe if I started to live through my artist archetype more I would have to step out of my little comfort zone and raise to a higher level. I’d have to be bold enough to self promote and have a thick enough skin to handle feedback constructively.

    So why do I like to play small, stay invisible and dare not to shine? When I was in middle school I did everything well, but never seemed to fit in. My family hardly knew I was alive. I could go days without even talking to anyone. I was very lonely. Right or wrongly so, I figured that I was too smart and talented and that other people were jealous of my abilities, nobody likes a know it all and that all of this made me kind of a boring person. It didn’t help that I was kind of geeky and mousy too while my mother ans sister where both very attractive and knew it! So what did I do? I dumbed down, started smoking cigarettes and hanging out with the more rebellious kids at school. Life did get to be more dramatic and I did start having more fun, but I have always feared inside that I’d be rejected from my friends if they ever saw the real person behind the mask. Who knows. I never dared to show them. I don’t know but only one of these people now and she accepts me, somewhat? Well I still feel that if I am too successful, or should I say, more successful than her in her eyes, she’d have a problem with it.

  2. Robin
    Robin says:

    I have been told many times that I should write a book and share my experiences with others. But I’ve never really liked writing. I now know it is because I’m afraid it will never be good enough. It will never make people laugh because laughing is somehow what’s needed to be liked. Looking back on my life is like watching a silent movie. I was there in every scene but I can’t see or hear myself talking.

    My senior high school english teacher told me once, when a girlfriend went with me to pick up our essays, that I wasn’t quite swimming with the fish yet. I now know he meant I wasn’t quite making the connections to my authentic self. I wasn’t able to speak my truth whether in writing or otherwise. Slowly, I’m realizing my truth. Now, to speak it and have the leading role in my own life, in my own movie.

    I love the line “the more specific, the more universal.” Your story and program are speaking to me in a profound way. Thank you and I look forward to continuing…


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