Discover Your Intuitive Gifts

Use your intuition to set you free!Jumping requires faith. Faith that when you jump, there will be a net, you will not be destroyed, that you will sail and fly.

Your first leap of faith is to admit to yourself what you already know. The result is enormously freeing, and is the primary stepping-stone to true freedom.

The second, more challenging, step is to tell the truth to someone safe. Here is where your intuitive gifts kick in. Really consider who might be the best person to trust with your truth. Take some time to journal or meditate on this. If you can’t think of the right person now, continue to be open and I firmly believe the right person will come to mind.

You’ll be amazed at how freeing it is when you tell the truth and are met with the empathy of someone you trust. I know that for me, the truth suddenly felt like a weight I could no longer bear by myself. I had always assumed everyone would turn away from me if they found out. I assumed I’d be left alone. Far from it, when I finally told the truth, I was offered loving support and advice!

By telling someone, I finally allowed myself to be vulnerable. Rather than trying to control everything in my life, I confided in someone else and let them in to see the authentic me. It was hard, but when you choose someone safe – someone who loves you and won’t judge you – they will see your humanness and have compassion for you on a deep, genuine level.

Now that you are truly “seen” – and you survived it — you will feel yourself empowered to take the next steps and make different choices about your life. Again, your intuition and internal guidance will help you move toward the choices that are most freeing.

Are you ready? If not, don’t worry – we’re never really ready. Remember that the process is inch-by-inch, so you can take as much time as you need. (It took me two years to really make the leap of my lifetime.) When you are ready to jump, your intuition, that internal voice we all have, will be an invaluable guide along the way.

When you connect with your intuition, you’ll tap into an invaluable guide for your journey to your authentic self and the life you desire. As you choose the people who create your safety net and make the new choices that support your new life, connecting with your intuitive and energetic guidance is an important tool for self-discovery.

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Understanding Awareness

Embrace your passionsI’m sharing this poem as inspiration to expand your journey of self-awareness by taking a deep-dive into alignment with your passions and purpose.

immersing and emerging

i watch her swim
away from fear
toward a sea
free from restraint

she does not look up
or around
only within
breathing in and out
immersing and emerging

criticism crawls
out of her body
as she glides
into a confident sheath
peace ignites her core

for the first time
she understands awareness
by being seemingly unaware

standing now she rises
her flesh propelled by
bone   muscle   tendon
blood is rushing her
heart awake

all love begins
with self-love
once you know
you are the root
of your own suffering
choose to disengage
from the periphery

harness and recognize
the strength inside
to magnetize

breath is the private mantra
guiding prayer
follow your feet knees hips
belly heart hands
be willing to lose your balance
surrender to what matters most
and dive into the unknown

 

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The Self-Worth Secret

Reclaim your self-worth!In order to truly deal with our money issues, we need to go deep within and explore not just our feelings about money—but also our feelings about ourselves. That’s because at heart, money issues are really issues of self-worth. In other words, our self-worth determines our net worth.

Until we truly feel worthy—deep inside—of the great life we desire, we won’t feel worthy of money on the outside. When we don’t feel worthy on the inside, we develop patterns that prevent us from having the money we want and need. For example, even if we get ourselves out of debt…we just build up more debt. Why would anybody do that? Well, they wouldn’t do it on purpose. . But these kinds of patterns are tenacious because they’re created by unconscious feelings and negative beliefs that took hold in childhood.

In fact, our sense of self-worth is created when we’re very young. As a result, some of us aren’t even aware that we don’t feel worthy inside. We carry unconscious beliefs about ourselves like “I’m not good enough” or “I’m not lovable” or “Other people are better than me.” These beliefs of unworthiness then drive our behaviors in all sorts of ways.

The mash-up of money and self-worth issues starts early—and that’s why we have to start by uncovering those old worth issues from childhood. If we don’t unwind the tangle of emotions and beliefs and fears that got encoded back then, we’ll stay in a dysfunctional relationship with money…not to mention a dysfunctional relationship with ourselves. And it won’t matter how many affirmations we write, or how much we learn about economics, because our self-worth determines our net worth.

“High” net worth is a feeling of wholeness. It’s about creating the life that makes you happy – whatever that means to you. And it’s our self-worth that determines our net worth. At heart, money issues are really issues of self-worth. Until we feel truly worthy – deep inside – of the great life we desire, we won’t feel worthy of money on the outside.

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Discover Your Heart’s Desire

Get the support you need!Commitment, Accountability, Action, Support. These are the four pillars of any coaching relationship.

It all begins with your commitment to your own evolution. And then, as a coach, my commitment to hold you accountable.

I’ve learned that, in life, we get what we’re committed to at the deepest level. And sometimes that doesn’t look like what we say we want. We say we’re committed to happiness, but deep down, we’re actually committed to something else – like being indispensable, staying safe, or putting others’ needs ahead of our own. Generally these commitments go hand in hand with limiting shadow beliefs developed in childhood.

So check your commitments. What do you get in life repeatedly that you don’t want? Typically those experiences are reflective of your deepest commitments… and you can choose to change those commitments to serve the life you desire instead of sabotaging it.

Once you make a new empowering commitment to yourself, the next step is being accountable and allowing other, who are safe, to bear witness your truth. You no longer have to carry the burden of the truth alone.

The simple act of confiding in someone else is a way of leaping toward freedom. Once you have seen the truth for yourself, and confided in someone else, you have the accountability in place to change your behavior and your situation.

Knowing the truth is one thing, acting to create change is another! When you want to be held accountable for keeping your commitments to yourself, you need solid action steps that move you in the right direction. Change doesn’t have to be earth-shattering, but don’t let the fear of repercussions cause you to choose something too easy.

As one of my clients noted: “Healing takes courage. Hope takes action. Life is waiting for you to answer. My advice is: Keep going.”

And, of course, as you are making the changes you desire, whether it’s jumping into a whole new life or opening your arms to the abundance of your own self-worth, support from others is key. The encouragement you get from a good coaching relationship, combined with gentle, focused accountability to yourself, will give you the support to take the actions you need to discover your heart’s desire. You deserve it!

If you are ready to discover your heart’s desire, working with a coach can give you the structure you need to make your dreams come true. By helping you discover your true commitments, holding you accountable to the actions you must take to keep your commitments to yourself, and supporting you on your journey, a coach can help you move into the life you’ve always wanted.

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Father’s Day

Father's Day

In honor of Father’s Days past, and for my brother who died before I truly knew him and yet is such a part of me, I wanted to share this poem with you.

in the eyes of others

i
walking with dad
by the hand
by the pond
to feed the ducks

lots of black
curly hair
maybe i was five
in the little blue dress
with the sailboat
on it

he took me there
where it was full
of quiet and
crying and
flowers
he took me to visit
my brother

and that is where
and when
i came to understand
that i would never
be whole
complete
or enough
while so much of me
was underground
while so much of me
was removed

moved from family
to home
to garden
where
dead
jewish
children
bloom

he is my dormant side
who wakes
when i lie on the grass
beside him
as i wait for him
to come to me
to come for me
in the eyes
of others

ii
the picture i want
is of you and me
from years ago
years before
you consumed me

i do not remember
before
you left me alone
with them
before you took
so much of me away
before i knew i wanted to go
all the way with you

as it stands today
the picture is of only me
searching

it is only half there
i have always only been
half there
and aware of carrying
the burden of your death
of being son as well as
daughter

the picture i see
is of how i still
love you
once ago

In this poem I share the power of the loss of my brother at an early age in a memory from visiting his resting place with my father. I hope it will resonate for you as you also work to resolve your past and how events entirely out of your control have shaped your view of the world…knowing that you can integrate and become whole again, and that you deserve the life you desire.

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Let Go and Leap!

Make your leap!Most of the time, we’re held captive in an invisible prison of our own beliefs. In my marriage, for example, I believed that my husband held all the cards. That belief was true because I allowed it to be true. My belief that I was never going to be good enough kept our unhealthy dynamic in place.

It’s false beliefs like these that leave us fearful, afraid to make the leap we want to make into the life we truly desire. Often these beliefs begin in childhood, when we try to make sense of things that happen to us or things we observe. While these beliefs may be illogical, they take hold and become the way we see the world. These unconscious “shadow beliefs” become part of our personal operating system, telling us what we can and cannot do. The people and situations we attract into our lives are consistent with those beliefs – for better or worse.

When we shine light on these unwanted parts of ourselves, we can integrate them in order to reclaim wholeness. Shifting to a new belief system that is based on the truth about ourselves is what sets us free and allows us to take that leap into the future.

An important part of this shift is forgiveness, both of yourself and others. It’s easy to fall into the “victim” trap around how your false belief system was created – but that doesn’t help you move from false beliefs about yourself to true beliefs. It’s also easy to blame ourselves for believing our false beliefs in the first place! But those are just crutches we hold onto because we are scared of letting go and leaping.

As Iyanla Vanzant said, “Forgiveness helps to transform and eliminate the energy blockages we hold in our minds about who we are and who others are, and the subsequent issues or upsets that grow from the thoughts, beliefs, and judgments we hold.”

Ask yourself these important questions:

  • What do you believe prevents you from making your jump into your new and better life?
  • What can you choose to believe instead, in order to let go and leap?

Understanding the false beliefs we hold about ourselves is the first step to letting go and leaping. By bringing them out into the light and allow them to shift, we can truly let go and jump into the future we most desire.

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Saying “Yes” to You!

Say Yes to You!One way to tell the “condition” of our self-worth is in how well we care for ourselves. Just as we demonstrate our love for others through our actions, we demonstrate self-worth through making sure we’re eating well, sleeping enough, and exercising enough. We say “Yes!” to ourselves, taking time for what we need in order to feel good. That might be meditation. A walk in the park. A hot bath. A talk with a friend. Alone time.

It also means taking credit for our progress and our successes. We pat ourselves on the back when we do something well. We acknowledge our talents and abilities. We notice our growth.

If that sounds conceited, check yourself. Healthy pride comes from a place of knowing your worth. Arrogance actually comes from a lack of self-worth. It’s putting on a good show of self-worth, but it isn’t real worthiness. Do you know someone who has healthy self-confidence, yet isn’t boastful or arrogant? That person could be a good role model. Even if you don’t know anyone personally, you can probably find someone in public life who exhibits that kind of confidence. What would it feel like to take healthy pride in what you do and who you are?

Remember that healthy self-worth isn’t a plateau to ever be reached. There’s no “ultimate” or “perfect” state of self-worth. No matter where you start, you have the opportunity to improve.

The first step to a healthier self-worth is saying “Yes!” to you. “Yes” to the time you need to be by yourself, or to be with friends. “Yes” to taking care of your physical, emotional, and spiritual self. “Yes” to celebrating your success, in your own way. Only when we love ourselves can we fully believe and accept the love of others. 

You are worth saying “Yes!” to you!

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How to Get Unstuck

Each small step leads to your jump!Movement mobilizes possibility.

One decision can create a big shift in your life and propel you forward. Even just one small forward movement can cause a positive ripple effect. This step often impacts us in ways we can’t predict, or may not even fully recognize at first.

Change begins with making a different choice.

Taking a single step today allows everything else in your life to shift toward your new and better life.

During the transition from leaving behind our old beliefs and creating new ones, we start to notice our habits and patterns. Sometimes, you have to tiptoe an inch at a time. That’s okay. Each step you take will give you more courage to dissolve a pattern and live into life beyond the familiar.

It starts with installing new beliefs to upgrade your operating system so you can catch yourself when you default to thinking and behaving in limited ways. You’ll start to notice yourself attracting a situation that’s similar to others you’ve attracted in the past—and in the moment you can make a conscious choice not to engage in the old pattern. This is how change happens, and how our beliefs cease to have power over us.

Remember not to beat yourself up for excuses that held you back in the past! We can’t turn back the clock, but we can start again right now.

What are the costs of staying in situations that no longer serve you?

One authentic choice leads to another, and you’ll find you are on your way to the life you desire.

When your “change muscle” becomes stronger, you’re less likely to get stuck in circumstances that hold you back or keep you small. If you know how to make little changes, you can make adjustments as you go.

Life is a series of course corrections. 

Each change you make gives you permission to make another.

Your present moment choices are the crystal ball that will predict your future.

This is the powerful truth, and it is the truth you can discover for yourself!

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Living with uncertainty

Don’t get stuck!Uncertainty. The tension of opposites. How, just when we think we have landed, we are actually further unearthed. Ground must be restored, but not through stillness. Stillness will not satisfy. I discovered life as breath: fluidity is the only ground we can seek.

For me, the catalyst of change was the ending of my marriage. For others, it’s the yearning for a new job, a new relationship, a new life. I’d like to share this poem with you about moving through the uncertainty of change as you jump to the life you desire.

into the uncertainty

last night
or very early this morning
he felt me awake
his deep exhale nestling
the nape of my neck
palm resting on the 
small of my back
gently pressing down
to ground me

now
the shorthand
of a marriage
translated
over time
is a lost language
just ancient fragments
of letters and torn
corners of reverie

in the dark
as i move in bed
i get the sense that
i am too big for this
body i’ve had

i surrender and assign
the loving of my body
to you
until i am ready to
love it again

feel like i am pushing
myself out from the inside
stretching this restrictive
container

all the while
i cried and
she stayed
prayed with me
into the uncertainty
still she watches
clearing the way
while i cannot see
stands beside me
when i need strength
to move forward
gently reminding me
that it’s always about
beginning
and then beginning
again

marriage
is a long time
to be away from myself

It takes courage to live with the uncertainty that comes from change. Avoiding this uncertainty can keep us stuck for years in relationships or jobs that no longer serve us. When you truly embrace change, you embrace everything that comes with it, even the uncomfortable parts! Your reward is the life you truly desire.

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How much of a raise do you want?

You are worthy of abundance!“I don’t charge as much as I’d like to for my services.”
“I tend to give away my products.”
“I’m afraid to ask for a raise or a promotion.”

Do any of these statements sound like you?

If so, you’re not alone!

Many of us (especially women) struggle with defining our value – and asking to be compensated accordingly. Studies show that women are less likely to negotiate their salary or ask for a raise. If we do and we’re told there’s no money in the budget, we’re more likely to give in, feeling guilty for asking in the first place.

Men, on the other hand, are more apt to stand their ground and keep pushing until they get what they want. Clearly many women have self-worth issues that tend to come out in particular ways around money – and we often put on financial blinders as a result.

There are many reasons we put on financial blinders, but one in particular is hard to recognize. What would happen if our hard luck stories related to money – to not having enough – turned out to not be true? What if we deserved and could have an infinite financial future?

If that were true, it would invalidate a whole bunch of ideas we have about ourselves… for example, the idea we aren’t worthy! We’d have to expand our current comfort level to having more. We’d have to stop playing small.

Accepting our greatness means no longer playing small. It often starts with baby steps. But eventually it means making major changes – in our lives, jobs, relationships and dreams.

If I had believed in my own self-worth, I would never have been willing to make the financial moves I made in the past. How many years did I waste, postponing a better life, simply because I went into hiding and didn’t see I was worthy of something better?

An infinite attitude toward money and our own self-worth starts with taking off the blinders and seeing where we’ve kept ourselves in the dark. And the good news is, you can start now to do things differently and create the abundant life you desire and deserve!

When you understand your self-worth, you understand that you are worth being paid for the value of your work. It’s easier to put on financial blinders, because then we can be comfortable with the hard luck money stories we’ve been telling ourselves. It’s time to expand our comfort level to having more, and embrace our self-worth and our abundance. It’s time to stop playing small!

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